by Maryjane
It is a thrill and an absolute blast to plan a wedding in an ideal world. Weddings are events people spend so much money on and walk away with wonderful memories and no regrets.
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Regardless, the reality is actually a lot more muddied. Making a list of guests, selecting a location, or the hurdles of finding the perfect wedding gown can be stressful for anyone.
Also, despite the fact that conflicts are common when planning something this large, sometimes they are truly silly. A Reddit user by the name of u/AITA__return2021, shared her story on r/AITA concerning how her fiancé requested she return a $400 wedding dress that she purchased with her own money.
After the lady denied the request, he said that only smart brides save money rather than spend it all on one dress.The response didn't go down well with the soon-to-be bride, who without a doubt needed to put her best self forward for this extraordinary event.
The post by the redditor got a considerable amount of attention, gathering practically 15K upvotes in only four days. It also got over 3.6K comments from the AITA community, which concluded that it was the fiancé who was being nonsensical.
As per the user, her fiancé is sometimes melodramatic with regards to finances. Scroll down to read the entire story and be sure to share your thoughts on whether you think the lady was right or wrong.
A lady shared how her fiancé wanted her to return a wedding dress worth $400 since she purchased it without telling him.
The bride-to-be is asking to know if she did something wrong, regardless of whether the fiancé referred to her as childish and irresponsible.
He's decent...
My dream wedding dress
When the soon-to-be bride finally got the ideal wedding dress, the first inquiry from her fiancé was about the cost of the dress.
Colorless dress...
"A bride saves money"
A demand
It's my big day
A spoiled 16 year old...
Furthermore, the user said that $400 isn't viewed as a huge deal where she resides, but it still started a controversy between them.
xyz days...
In 2014, Stress in America conducted a study among the general public to gauge their attitudes and views on stress. The survey was conducted online and had over 3,000 respondents who live in the U.S.
The outcomes show that financial stress is spread across the country and, regardless of the economic state, cash has consistently outperformed the rundown of stressors since their first study in 2007. Almost three-quarterof adults report being financially stressed at times, and almost one-quarter say that they experience outrageous stress over it.
Furthermore, it does not appear to be getting better, as most recipients stated that their stress level about money had remained or increased from the previous year. Also, nearly a third of partners and spouses say that the major source of stress in their relationship is money.
If partners quarrel over cash regularly and the conflicts stay unsettled, it could develop into a bigger problem. The researchers said that 41% of adults living with their partners confirm that they became annoyed or shouted at their partner because of stress in the previous month.
Nonetheless, it is possible to have financial discussions with little to no conflict or drama. Patrice Washington, who is a personal finance expert and individual accounting master and creator of Redefine Wealth for Yourself: How to Stop Chasing Money and Finally Live Your Life’s Purposeshared three guidelines on the best way to discuss it with your partner.
The first guideline is to understand financial blueprints, and by this, Washington implies sorting out your and your partner's sentiments and background towards cash.
The second is to attempt to figure out common convictions. Since you know each other's monetary blueprints, you should discuss further and know where you can both negotiate so that the benefit is mutual.
Finally, start leading and stop nagging. The two individuals in the relationship should be understanding and respectful of one another.
Remember that determining the best path for both of you may take a long time, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try it at least once.
Redditors were unanimous in their decision and considered the boy’s behavior to be controlling.
Controlling behavior...
A doctor who hounds...
A blackmail
Holy red flags
Yikes
Get out while you can...
Move out
You would agree that discussions around cash are not the most wonderful ones. Discussing funds sometimes is draining and may be an emotional trigger that prompts conflicts.
An explanation is that individuals look at cash differently, and it's regularly due to how we were raised. If you freely spend money, you may have lovely sentiments towards it.
However, if you're used to a family with a tight budget plan, you may find it exhausting.
