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It’s not always easy to accept the fact that you might have toxicparents.
However, acceptance is the first step in letting them go.
Toxic parents are critical and want to be in control. They easilymanipulate your choices and can hold you back from who you truly want to be.
Succeeding in letting go of your toxic parents can be difficult.After all, they’re still your parents. And separating the idea of loving yourfamily but, at the same time, getting away from people who are doing you harmcan be a battle for adult children.
Though, it’s not impossible.
Learning more about how to break free from your toxic parents canhelp you to take control of your life.
Why Is It So Hard to Let Go of Toxic Parents?
If parents are manipulating a child and have caused psychologicalproblems for them as an adult, it might seem like the only thing they’d want todo is get as far away from them as possible. Unfortunately, that’s not alwaysthe case.
Again, they’re still your parents. Despite everything they mayhave done to you, you may feel guilty when you think about trying to let go ofthat relationship.
Sometimes, toxic parents may have manipulated their child enoughso that even when they’re an adult, they can’t make decisions for themselves.Adult children who were raised by toxic parents tend to do whatever thoseparents want or do things the way the parents want them to.
So, whether it’s an issue of heart or mind, letting go of thesetoxic patterns isn’t easy.
How to Successfully Stop a Toxic Relationship With Your Parents
Letting go of toxic parents doesn’t mean you have to shut themcompletely out of your life. In some cases, that may have to happen. In others,it’s simply a matter of breaking the cycle of dysfunction.
The bottom line is: You need to be the one to decide whatyour relationship with your parents should look like.
So, how can you do that after years of dealing with psychologicalturmoil?
There are several steps involved. But, if you’re willing to put inthe effort, you can break free from the toxicity of your relationship.
Some key factors include:
- Set boundaries with your parents (and enforcing them!)
- Accept the guilt (and live with the discomfort)
- Don’t try to change them—change what you can control
- Take care of yourself first
- Surround yourself with supportive relationships
- Be prepared to exit the relationship if necessary
These are just a few strategies to keep in mind as you try to letgo of your toxic relationship with your parents.
Of course, trying to hold on to any kind of relationship doesn’twork for everyone. It’s important that you understand that so you can be fullyprepared to “escape” if you have to.
You Don’t Have to Stay
Toxic parents want to be in control of almost every aspect of your life. One of the best things you can do is to let go of your guilt for wanting [to] control your life yourself and start making decisions on your own.
You don’t have to run to your parents whenever they want you. Youdon’t have to spend every night of the week with them or give up something youwant to do because they want you there. And you don’t even have to spend theholidays with your parents.
It’s your choice.
The sooner you and your parents both understand these boundaries,the easier it will be to guide your relationship into a healthier state.
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If you’re having trouble breaking free from your toxic parents,even as an adult, don’t feel ashamed. It’s a difficult thing to do, no matterhow strained the relationship is.
If you would like help with letting go of the toxic relationship,please feel free to contact me. Together, we can go over more strategies forsuccess so you can take control of your life and find freedom.
