Breakups aren’t pretty, not when you’ve been with someone for years and not if you’ve been on just a couple dates together.
If you are the one ending things, you have got to be careful about how you do it so you don’t leave the other person hurt and doubting themselves. You owe them that much.
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However, what’s the right way to break up? Is a text acceptable? Well, given the pandemic situation, it is.
While a long-term partner deserves a meet-up or at least a Skype call (when you can’t make it personally), if you’ve been on one, two, or a few dates with someone and the relationship status isn’t defined, you can end things via text but make sure you do it kindly.
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It is not the best thing to break up via text but it’s way better than ghosting.
Here is how you break up with someone over text, what you should and shouldn't say to someone in a breakup text:
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-Keep It Short
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See it as ripping off a bandaid, only on someone else. Don’t make it any more painful than it is and keep your break up text crisp, to-the-point and short.
You might have a 100 reasons to not be with them, but you don’t have to list out all of them. Say “It was nice meeting you, but I don’t see this working out.” End it with “I wish you the best.”
-Be Honest, But Not Brutal
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If you didn’t feel the spark, you didn’t.
If you don’t agree with their views and values in life, you don’t have to compromise. Rather than finding a lame excuse like “I want to focus on my career,” it’s better to say what didn’t click for you, unless it’s something personal.
Tell them as it is but be mindful of not hurting their feelings.
-Avoid The Clichés
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“I am not ready for a relationship”, and “It’s not you, it’s me”. We all know the drill. Nobody goes on a few dates and then suddenly decides they don’t want to be in a relationship.
The stereotypical answers are pretty disrespectful and you need to put in more effort than that.
Create an original text rather than copy-pasting what you’ve seen in movies. Refer to Point 2 in case you don’t know how to.
-Timing Is Key
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It’s not wise to drop the B bomb on them when they are flirting, sexting or gushing about the last date on text. Also, don’t do it right after you come back home after seeing them or worse, right after you two hooked up.
Start your text with a usual greeting like “Hi”. Proceed with your reason and let them know that the relationship has run its course. Basically, let them down easy and slowly.
