What guys look for on a first date? (2023)

What do guys find attractive on first dates?

Just as women want compliments, men want them as well. During the first date a lot of men look for a woman who is willing to take as well as give compliments. So when a guy says that you look great or that you have a beautiful smile, don't hesitate to shoot a compliment right back at home.

A good first date should let you get to know each other without forcing awkward conversation. Taking in a comedy show, visiting a museum, or getting active can help you find some common ground. Try something new together to create space for vulnerability and set the stage for a strong bond.

I don't generally go beyond this on the first date except a simple kiss at the end. Touching lightly at the shoulder or arm should be okay. Touch builds familiarity, comfort, chemistry and attraction. Use light subtle touches when emphasizes points.

Good men want the same things good women do—genuine sincerity, trustworthiness and confidence. If you connect with someone, follow it up with a second date, who knows where it may take you.

The eyes most definitely get all the attention, especially when a man first meets a woman. The shape, size and color can easily tempt a man into wanting to know who the woman is behind those eyes. Yes, a smile is one of the things that a guy will first notice about you.

They don't respect your boundaries.

You say that you don't want to have another drink and they order one for you anyway. You say you need to head back home because you have an early day tomorrow and they try to convince you to stay longer. They try to kiss you and you express that you're not comfortable with that.

You can end the date by saying, “Take care,” rather than saying, “Take a hike!” It's also important that you don't lead someone on and give false hope. For example, while they may want to set up a specific time and location for the next date, it's unkind to make specific plans and then cancel them later.

What do men think about after first date?

If you bedazzled him with your presence on your first date, he's interested, he's very likely to think about whether he bedazzled you just as much as you did. It's a normal, usual post-first-date thought anyone might have after enjoying a person's company on their first date.

A guy might expect a kiss if you already know each other.

When you've known each other for a while, you'll likely feel more comfortable sharing a kiss. In that case, your date might decide to go in for the kiss at the end of the night. You can still decide it's not the right time, though.

Any skin-to-skin contact will turn a guy on. Touch his cheeks, his forearms, the back of his wrists, his forehead, his bare knees, or even graze his lips with your hands.

Talk about his passions/hobbies

Guys love having conversations about the things they like to do or their natural talents and passions. Feel free to invite him to a conversation that involves his hobbies and passions and then let him know why you would like to indulge in the same activity as well.

The three day rule is a dating strategy that suggests waiting three days to call your date after you go out. The theory is that waiting three days makes you look less eager and/or desperate, and gives your date time to realize how much they liked you when they think you might not contact them.

Poorly manicured nails, hairy legs and unshaven armpits are major turn-offs for men. Poor personal hygiene cannot be hidden by makeup and nice clothes. Yes, men notice. The sight of a dried heel, oily face or peeling skin is a warning to "back off.” Don't expect to turn him on with cracked lips.

Men who were given the chance to 'design' their perfect partner for a long term relationship overwhelmingly chose an attractive face over an attractive body. Not surprisingly, men who designed their partner for a short term fling chose a hot body over an attractive face.

A guy might expect a kiss if you already know each other.

When you've known each other for a while, you'll likely feel more comfortable sharing a kiss. In that case, your date might decide to go in for the kiss at the end of the night. You can still decide it's not the right time, though.

Where do guys like to go on dates?

When in Doubt, Wear Red or Black. According to color psychologists, the best colors to wear on a first date are red and black. Wearing the two romantic colors, especially if you're a woman, can make you appear more attractive and more desirable to your date.

You can end the date by saying, “Take care,” rather than saying, “Take a hike!” It's also important that you don't lead someone on and give false hope. For example, while they may want to set up a specific time and location for the next date, it's unkind to make specific plans and then cancel them later.